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Tips For A Happy Marriage
In January 2006, I will have been married to my husband for 29
years. We went out together for 2 years before that.
Marriage is a sacred vow to love your partner for richer or for
poorer, in sickness and in health, till ... well you know the
rest. But for many people, the pressures, challenges, and
monotony of married life has shrouded its wonderful positive
aspects.
Great marriages don't just happen. You have to do something to
make it last. Improve your marriage now. Remember that
improvement is not a one-time event. It's a process, so better
start now.
Being happy starts within you. If you can't be happy with
yourself, then there's no chance that you'll be happy with
someone else.
Be the best that you can be to your spouse.
The Qualities of a Successful Marriage
Love
Love is the most essential component in a relationship. It is
the powerful force that binds two unique individuals together. A
relationship will not start without love.
Support
Being a supportive spouse can be both a rewarding and a
difficult role in a relationship. The most important aspect is
being a loving presence always in your spouse's life. Being
supportive means strengthening the partner. You bear the weight.
It is quite a responsibility for any one to take on. The sense
of responsibility grows deeper when your spouse faces certain
problems.
To avoid conflict, respect your spouse's personal decisions.
Show that you have faith in your mate. Be the shoulder to lean
on. Work together to maintain balance in your life together.
Don't be threatened by your spouse's accomplishments. Be proud
of your spouse's achievements. If you want to help your spouse
to recover from a difficult situation, don't try to solve it on
your own.
Tolerance
The meanings of tolerance in the dictionary are:
1. The power or capacity of an organism to tolerate unfavorable
environmental conditions.
2. A disposition to allow freedom of choice and behavior.
3. The act of tolerating something. 4. Willingness to
recognize and respect the beliefs or practices of others.
5. A permissible difference; allowing freedom to move within
limits.
The given meaning has only one denominator. Patience. Without
it, the word tolerance is nothing.
Always remember that it pays to be patient. As the saying goes,
patience is a virtue.
Communication
All arguments can be solved through proper communication. If
your partner annoys you for things he or she has done
consciously or unconsciously, approach your spouse. Talk to each
other. Explain that you are offended by that act. Remember that
he or she can't read minds. Don't try to keep it inside. It will
corrupt you. The annoyance will grow in your heart.
Don't wait for it to burst one day. As early as possible
discuss the problem with your spouse. If a certain thing bothers
you, tell it straight to your spouse. It doesn't hurt to be
straightforward. It is just a choice of words on how you will
express
yourself.
Realistic Expectations
Don't expect too much from your spouse. They are also humans
bound to commit mistakes.
Caring
Show your spouse that you're concerned. During lunch, ask him or
her if he or she has already eaten. Small simple things can mean
a lot to them. Take time to notice your spouse. Say I love you
everyday.
Nurturing
Grow with each other. Nurture intimacy. Live together and raise
your children.
Sense of Humor
Laugh together. Have fun together. It is healthy to stretch out
those lazy lips. Don't be too serious. Pressures of life? Don't
let it weigh you down. Uplift your spirits high. Don't take
things too seriously. Stop trying to be perfect because no
person is. Always put on a happy face! Smile immensely. It can
really change the way you and other people feel. Happiness is a
choice, so don't choose to frown. A wrinkle on the face is ugly.
Smiling is considered as one of the fountains of youth. Smile
wide. Make the world a brighter place to live in. Don't forget
to laugh and joke around. Be kind and smile at everyone,
especially your spouse. If tensions start to grow, smile at him
or her.
Laugh out loud. It's the best medicine in town. Heal your body,
mind and soul. Fill your life with laughter so that you won't
have much room left for negative emotions.
Commitment
A happy couple in a happy marriage develops bonding rituals.
These become the pillars that hold up the marriage. Show your
dedication every day.
Respect
Appreciate each other's eccentricities and differences,
especially as woman and man. Learn to be happily different.
Learn to give and take. Practice kindness and politeness with
each other in at least 95 percent of your interactions.
Know how to handle conflict
Don't make things worse by not talking to each other. Look into
your spouse's eye when asking him or her. Don't delay the
conversation for quite a long time. This will only make the
conflict worse.
Solve problems together
Resolve arguments rather than letting things fester. Speak up.
It will not aggravate the situation.
Interdependence
Learn to reciprocate.
Enjoy one another
Focus on enjoying life. Live a carefree life. Think that your
spouse is the one that really matters in this world. Do things
together. Excite your relationship by finding new ways to enjoy
each other.
Have fun together
Play in the rain together. Isn't it great to be a child once in
a while? Run like a madman while you chase each other in the
rain.
To learn more, you can visit
http://www.self-help-motivation-source.com/marriagesecrets.html
About the author:
Marlene Challis is founder and CEO of Mc Internet Marketing. She
has several business branches and websites. She can be contacted
through the website, www.self-help-motivation-source.com. Feel
free to republish this article provided you do not edit it in
any way and include the author bio as well.
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